We
all feel like failures from time to time. While this is a normal feeling, you
have to find a way to see yourself and your life from a different perspective.
Sometimes we ignore the “little things.” Just because you are not a
millionaire, don’t live in a mansion, and you don’t drive a fancy car, that
doesn’t mean you’re a failure. In fact, it’s quite the contrary.
1.
Your relationships are less dramatic than they used to be.
Drama
is not maturity. As we age, we should develop maturity. So maybe your relationships
were drama-filled in your past, but if you have moved beyond that, then you are
successful.
2.
You are not afraid to ask for help and support any more.
Asking
for help does not equal weakness. In fact, it is a strength. No person has ever
succeeded in isolation. It takes teamwork to accomplish goals. Asking or help
is a sign that you have grown as a person.
3.
You have raised your standards.
You
don’t tolerate bad behavior any more – from other people, or even yourself. You
hold people accountable for their actions. You don’t spend time with the
“energy vampires” in your life anymore.
4.
You let go of things that don’t make you feel good.
No,
this is not narcissistic even though it might seem like it. Self-love is
success. Love yourself enough to say ‘no’ to anything that doesn’t make you
happy, doesn’t serve your purpose, or drags you down.
5.
You have moments where you appreciate who you see in the mirror.
Ideally,
you should appreciate who you see in the mirror at every moment. But even if
that doesn’t happen, if you do it more than you used to, then that is success.
Love yourself. You are awesome.
6.
You have learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth.
Not
everyone can have success 100% of the time. That’s just not realistic. Life is
about victories and losses. So look at your setbacks as stepping
stones to something better. In reality, there really is no such thing as as
setback. It’s all just part of a wondrous journey.
7.
You have a support system that includes people who would do anything for you.
If
you have figured out the people who “have your back” and recognized the ones
who only pretend that they do, then you have succeeded. This is a painful
realization, but once you learn to see the signs of betrayal, you can stay away
from those people.
8.
You don’t complain much.
Because
you know there really is nothing to complain about. Unless you really have gone
through some horrific life experience and had unimaginable losses, most of what
we all experience on a day-to-day basis is just mundane. And successful people
know that. And they live in a space of gratitude.
9.
You can celebrate others’ successes.
Just
because other people succeed, that doesn’t make you a failure. Applaud the
people who rise to the top. The more positive energy you give to other people’s
victories, the more you will create your own.
10.
You have passions that you pursue.
You
are not stagnant. You know you have something wonderful to contribute to the
world. You have unique talents and gifts. Not only do you know that, you pursue
it.
11.
You have things to look forward to.
If
you don’t have exciting things going on in your life that you are eagerly
anticipating, then you are slowly dying inside. Successful people create goals
that they are passionate about pursuing. They let this excitement drive their
life.
12.
You have goals that have come true.
Even
though “failures” are a part of life, you have stuck to your goals and dreams
long enough to make them come to fruition. You have some tastes of
victory. It fuels you.
13.
You have empathy for others.
A
person without empathy is dead inside. Empathy equals spreading love and
positive energy into the world. Successful people know this. They love others
as if they are family.
14.
You love deeply and open yourself up to be loved by others.
Love
is risky, and sometimes scary for people. It’s the one thing we all strive for,
but it’s also intimately tied to the one thing we fear the most – rejection. If
you open your heart enough to love and be loved, then you are successful.
15.
You refuse to be be a victim.
You
know that life doesn’t always happen to you.
Many times, you are a co-creator of your life experiences. Successful people
know this and refuse to be kept down by life experiences. The rise up and
conquer anyway.
16.
You don’t care what other people think.
You
know you can’t please everyone. You know that the standards with which society
judges people is many times unrealistic. So you just keep true to yourself and
love the person you are.
17.
You always look on the bright side.
Life
can be full of disappointments – if you choose to see them that way. Otherwise,
they are learning opportunities. No negative experience is ever wasted as long
as you learn from it.
18.
You accept what you can’t change.
Let’s
face it – there many things you can’t change in life. All you can
change is how you view what happens. If you can change your negative
perspective on situations to a positive one, then you are successful.
19.
You change what you can.
And
let’s face it again – there are many things you can change in
life. Successful people don’t sit around accepting the negatives that are
changeable. They get out there and do something about it!!
20.
You are happy.
To
me, this is the ultimate definition of success. It doesn’t matter what the
balance is in your bank account, how big your house is, or how many fancy
vacations you take. If you are happy, then you are succeeding in
life.
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